Conversation Conkers!!!!! MASTER THIS!

Nowadays, people never communicate. They either
1. Give orders
2. Take orders
3. Complain
4. Give affirmation
5. Agree/disagree

It's really too bad. Conversaion is sooo important. Let's say.. for example.
Tom says, "I really have tried! But he would not agree that plan A is good."
The boss replies, "Why don't u guys discuss it properly?"
Tom tells him, "But he disagreed! what more to discuss?"

See? That's too bad.
People always think that if they have voiced out an opinion, and the person doesn't accept it, that means THE END of the conversation.

Conversation actually should be like this...
1. Give and take.
2. Temperarily put down own opinions and listen to what the other person feels
3. Never force your ideas on other people
4. Even if the person if WRONG, you let him finish speaking first and say "I'll think about it" and make wise discussions.

I have many friends who tell me things do not work out, and they don't know how to talk. Oh we are blessed with a tongue, why don't we make use out of it!

Sometimes when people piss you off, it would be silly not to confront and converse IF CIRMSTANCES allow it. That day my friend was telling me, when she was in a room with some people, there was a person smoking. She pretended to cough and flap around until the person's friend ask him to stop smoking. This, is when circumstances don't allow discussions. But she did a great move, didn't she? Body language. To convey things.

What if someone asks you to mark his works, or play you a song and you think it's simply horrible? If you say "god, you suck!" you may ruin the person! If you say "erm.. it's good! heh heh" you're lying, and the person might embarrass himself nextime!
I think it'd be good to do the "rub and poke". First you take note of the GOOD stuff. The conversation might go like this...
"Actually, i enjoyed your ideas...But, i think it's crucial that you work on..."
"Good attempt. But hey, room for improvement. you have to work on...."
CONSTRUCTIVE criticism is always good. I had a senior friend who would always tell me I suck, but wouldn't tell me what to work on. That, is conversation problems.

Now when it comes to relationships, conversations are the most important part. Many people think that relationships is made of romance, innocent love, sex, giggles and everything nice. Actually, i hate to break it to you, but...

Relationship= CONVERSATION+GIVE N TAKE+STICKING TOGETHER AT BAD TIMES+UNDERSTANDING+ACCEPTING EACH OTHERS FAULTS + TOLERANCE

Difficult right?

When your lover does somehting you do not like, you resort to...
1. Flirt with someone else, let him/her know you're upset.
2. Go all moody and keep quiet and say "nothing" when people ask you what's wrong
3. Bitch it all out. Scream!
4. Write a note and tell him/her how you feel
5. Break up lah!
6. Cry! My life is over!

I think it'd be much easier to converse, than to send false messages. Let's do some interpretation.

When a guy..
Goes all moody, it means he's jealous and upset over something you've done. He wants attention!
They rarely bitch out, mostly just keep quiet and frown.
When they ask you to go away, they just want to feel your presence.
gUys are seriously lack of conversation skills, they ought to learn how to talk about their feelings (boy, don't shrug!) and be nice and reassuring!

When a girl...
Goes flirty with other guys in FRONt of you, it means you've done somehting to displease her. Soothe her out and ask her to tell you what's wrong. She may seem reluctant at first but she'll open up and trust you more.
When she bitches it out, it means she cares enough to talk about you. You still have a chance. (right?)
Girls, should learn to be more trusting and have more confidence in themselves. Never ever use "if you love me, you will...!" or "do i look fat in this?" or "do you still love me?". I wonder why, but guys don't dig this stuff!
And... about fat/thin .. It's actually sexy for a girl to have an appetite, right? Heh heh!

Okay.. next .. conversation with FAMILY.
Ah, this is going to be hard.
Normally, a typical teenager's conversation would be liek this.
*walks into the house* "hey mom!"
*slams into room*
*plays computer, have a nap*
*mom calls for dinner*
Mom: How's your day?
Son: Fine. Good.
Mom: what did you learn in class?
*son stares*
Mom: how was school today?
Son shrugs : The usual, homework, teachers.
Mom: I had a wonderful day, i got a promotion!
Son: Oh? That's great.
*silence*
Mom: Actually I read your diary, and if you need to talk to me about that girl, you should...please don't be mad..
Son: WHAT?! YOU SNOOPED? I CANT BELIEVE THIS! *stands up and slams*
Mom: but.. you never tell me anything and i thought...
Son: Get lost!!!!!!! *runs into room and slams door

See? No wonder they're snooping on us! No wonder they are so frustrated and full of complaints! It's not that they are too free or kepo: They are nosey because they CARE!
They want to know what's going on, what's happening. They're worried you're joining some cult which teaches u to abandon parents. Do you remember who's the most important person to you when you were 3 years old? Damn, you thought momma was everything. Now you just switch your focus point to friends, opposite sex, games! Of course they're upset and complainy! Work it out, talk about stuff. You'll be surprised at the freedom you will earn. *wink*

I'm not exactly good at conversation either. (Its a secret, but when i talk to people i respect, my tongue ties in knots and i go all stupid and retarded)
Well, this exactly isn't an interesting conversation. But if there's anyone reading it and post up a comment, i'll continue this topic.

Hapy conversing, y'all!