Excuse me !

A few hours ago, I received an SMS from my cousin sister. It says,

" I found if we let go of our selfishness, we can think better and be happier.Try to give excuses for others even if they're not very good. Sounds stupid, right? "

Dear me, no. It certainly is not stupid. Infact it's tres brilliant.
This is a beautiful insight which n ot many people bother to linger upon.

Now try imagining this situation. You are giving a talk which you have prepared for AGES, and the people whom you're close with are not exactly paying attention. What crosses your mind? "How could they?! I always supported them when they needed me!" This would be my reaction.

On the other hand...Think : You've finally met someone you badly wanted to impress. But being as nervous as you are, silly words and comments accidentally slipped out of your trap. When you go back and reflect upon the conversation you guys had earlier... many would think "Ah! Stupid me!! Umm.. i'm sure he'd understand that i'm nervous, he'd know that it's because i admire him so much. I hope he noticed that i tried."

See? The problem is, we always give excuses and be really lenient on ourselves, naively hoping people will spare us from critical judgement. BUT we still weigh people and think badly of others.

Instead of just jumping into conclusion from these signs...
1. ARe not REspecting us
2. Do not care about us
3. Are not paying attention
4. ARe being Rude to us
5. Didn't show interest
6. their lack of enthusiasm
7. their facial expression (glare, frown, speaking tone)

Why not think rationally and save the silly thoughts? Sometimes, people are just tired! Maybe someone else provoked them before we talk to them? Or they might just be having a really, really bad day! Besides, the time we picked to talk to them might be wrong! About facial expressions and speaking tone, i've noticed that sometimes, people don't mean the way they sound. We might just be over-sensitive.
If we think they said something rude to us, it might have just slipped out of carelessness. Some people's words do not churn all the way through their brains!

Why torture ourselves with the negative thoughts that people are not treating us the way we want them to?

Okay, back to the point. What we should be learning now, is to think of others kindly. Give excuses to them, the way we hope people will give us. Second chances, words of forgiveness, a glance of reassurance. These are all it takes to give people the confidence and ease of mind!

So try thinking for others, understanding how littlest things might reflect upon everything, and you'll find yourself MUCH more refined and detailed.

Gambateh!